Had thought about parenting today when I fetched Mikaela home from school. Just feel that I need to note it down.

As usual, I went to fetch Mikaela after work. Helped her wear her shoes and got her to say bye bye to the teachers when she was leaving. Same routine everyday. Usually we will hold her hand or carry her while walking to the carpark. But today, I had a thought. Why not I just walk behind her and let her lead the way, or let her walk on her own since I was not in a hurry.

Mikaela walked in front of me. Didn’t turn around to look for me, just kept on walking the same path we walked every evening. We will always walk pass this kids playground and Mikaela will always want to go into the playground to play, but we will usually not allow her to go in to play and tell her say we need to go home for dinner. If she start insisting, usually I will just carry her to the lift as she will not want to walk away from the playground area. However, I let her decide today on what she want to do. She stopped just right outside of the playground. I didn’t pull her away, just stood behind her and observe. She stood there for about maybe 20 seconds(rough gauge), and continued walking to the lift. Pressed the button to get the lift door to open. Lift came, she walked into the lift and went to hold the handle in the lift. All these by herself. I didn’t do a single thing. Just let her be since we’ve already taught her previously. We reached the carpark. As I parked my car just right in front of the lift lobby, I asked her where is my car to see if she recognize my car. There were a few other cars around as well. She stood there, observed and point to my car and said “car!” To confirm she chose the right vehicle, I told her to walk to the car. She really recognize my car! Hahaha. And even know where’s she usually sit. Hahaha.

After all these, I came to think, as a parent, we need to educate our kids to do all the right things, but we need to give freedom to our kids to decide what they wanna do. We teach them, guide them and ultimately, we got to step back and observe how they live their life. They may time to time want to do different things in life, and as parents, I feel we will need to always be behind them to support them and help them if they make mistakes in life.

Usually as a parent, you will feel that we need to always hold their hands and guide them through life. But seriously… there will come a time you need to let go of that hand and let them decide what they wanna do. You need to step back and let them be. I’m sure they gonna make some mistakes in life and that’s when you step in and guide them back to the correct way.

I came to realize that actually Mikaela knows a lot of stuffs. But we didn’t really give her a chance to show us what she knows. SooooooOOOO…… We will correct that method and start to let her show us.

Just gave her some mangos to eat. Samantha cut the mangos into small cubes and put them into a bowl and gave them to Mikaela. We stood behind and watch her. Mikaela sat on the floor and started sharing the mangos with Haha(my dog)! Hahahaha. She used a fork to eat the mangos, and when she wanna feed Haha, she will put the mango cube on the floor or place it on her palm to feed Haha. Wow! We are so proud of her! Hahaha. I guess it’s time that we step back and observe. I guess Mikaela might know more stuff that we imagine. It’s getting more fun being a parent! =)

 

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Thank you 2016

2016 passes so fast. I’m still slightly in my “USA bubble” and this is year end already. Last year this period, I was still in Washington. Hahaha. When Samantha said Merry Christmas to me, I said that we were at New York last year. When she mentioned Boxing Day, I said that we were at Washington. Hahaha. So yeah…. time to move on. 

This year is tough year for me because it’s the year of transition for me. As I’ve mentioned earlier I changed my job, Mikaela changed school. It’s tough, but I feel it was good for me. During my period of job hunting, I learned new things, went overseas for interview. Though didn’t get the jobs, but it was a fun experience. I did Uber for the 4 months when I was jobless. Was tough driving around for long hours. I couldn’t focus well after about 4 hours of constant driving, resulting in my car bumper was damaged twice during the 4 months. Hahaha. 

Mikaela changed of school. Both Sam and I had been thinking to change her to a childcare center nearer to our place and we were blessed that there was 1 at the new Tampines Hub. As it’s a new franchise from Learning Kidz we didn’t need to queue up to register her in. As expected, the transition was terrible. Mikaela cried like crazy during the transition even when Samantha was with her at school. But this transition wasn’t as bad as during she change over from Infant Care to Preschool. Now she’s coping well and we are really happy! ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š

Change of job. Change of environment. Really need to freshen up myself and move on.. So yeah, felt it was the right time. As I’ve mentioned before, I’m really happy to join the company. During my time there, I made lots of friends, close friends as well.. But I felt it’s time for me go for something new when I’m still able to absorb well. So yeah… I made that decision to leave. ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š I’m now no longer in healthcare sector. I’m in logistics. It’s a totally new industry but it’s exciting for me! I found the renewed excitement in me! Lots to learn but it’s a exciting journey for me. Pray hard I can cope well! 

This year, New Year day will be celebrated at Taiwan! Finally back to Taiwan after missing it for nearly 2 years! Hahaha. This time is with a group of close friends and not just us. Really been a long time since we’ve travelled with a group of friends… We are so gonna enjoy the last bit of 2016 and the start of 2017! I believe 2017 will be whole new experience for us! 

Thank you to all who’ve played a part in my life in 2016! God bless and have an awesome year end celebration! ๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿ˜Ž

Didn’t expect I will have 4 months of jobless period. Wanted to just rest and relax for around 1 month plus while doing Uber to earn some money, but instead, I had 4 months of rest! Hahaha. Market was really bad and it’s during the end of the year, so it’s so much harder to secure a job that I will like and is willing to meet my expected salary. Finally.. I’m back to the workforce once again! Next Monday will be my first day at work. I won’t be working in the healthcare industry this time round. Wanna try out something new before I get too old. So… It’s not just a new job.. It’s a whole new industry, whole new environment. Just pray hard that I will be able to learn fast and do well.

During this period of rest, I was doing Uber. Was a fun experience. Travelled to places I’ve never been before in Singapore. Seen the most beautiful houses as well. Most of my passengers were very nice people. Very nice to chat with. Hahaha. Met up with a few nasty ones as well. Hahahaha. There was 2 trips which I will always remember.

1st Trip – Passenger was a husband and wife(I guess so), wife was pregnant. When they board my car, there was a very strong alcohol smell. Their destination was to Thomson Medical. Wife was going to deliver the baby. Both of them didn’t seem very excited or nervous. Husband told me lower down my radio volume as it gives him headaches, and fell asleep without caring about the wife. Wife felt nothing and just started to scroll her handphone. Then suddenly she told the husband, “ehhh… Why she just transfer $500??? Siao ah.. Where got enough???? I told her to transfer more de leh!” And after that she told the husband to contact the family that she’s gonna give birth. Husband just nod his head and said ” yah la yah la” and went back to sleep. Haiz… I just kept quiet, and drive them to their destination. Hope that they will take good care of the baby…

2nd Trip – Went to this condo kind of apartment but there isn’t any security to open the gantry, and the apartment was like in the middle of the road. I can’t turn into the condo, I can’t reverse out too as there’s a lot of cars driving past. Called the passenger, and he just say “yah la yah la… I’m coming down now.” Ok… I wait. He came down with his gf. Used GPS to guide me to their destination. Asked the passenger if he has any preferred route he wants to go, he replied “no, just follow GPS”. Ok. I follow. GPS guided me through all the small roads, so there was turning turning and turning. Guy started to say “ehh… Why you keep going these weird roads? Trying to go longer way to earn more money is it?” Then he turn to his gf and said “I would have reached my office if he go by the other way.” Then I explained to him that I just simply follow the GPS and he kept quiet. In my mind I was thinking, “hello… excuse me… Uber drivers won’t cheat your money de leh! In order to earn more incentives, Uber driver got to complete more trips. If your trip is like Cineleisure to Plaza Singapura, I will be happier than your trip from Cineleisure to Jurong point!!!!!!! Ok.. Nevermind. GPS indicate I’ve reached the destination. But the location is like out of no where. So I asked them where would they want me to alight them. Guess what’s their reply…… “I don’t know where to stop. I never been to the location before.” WTS!?!?! You still come and say ” I would have reached my office earlier” and now you tell me you never been there before. So I just have to keep turning and turning and turning to find the building. Angry! Pissed! I gave him 1 star rating. Hahaha. But I guess he gave me a low rating as well.. But who cares…. Hahaha. Ok… Enough of my ranting… End of story!

*back to happier things*

Just want to take this chance to thank my wife and mom. They’ve been supported me all this while, from the decision of leaving my previous job and til my current new job. They had been always supportive. Thank you baby and Mama! =)

It’s about 4 months ago since my last day at my previous job… Time flies man… Left the company without securing a new job and chose to work as an Uber Driver during this period. It was a tough decision to leave, but it was the right decision. I just needed to find the joy back again. Praying hard that the choice I made this time round will be a good one and a one that will last.. Hahaha. Just pray hard and trust that God will guide me through during my work life in that company. All the best to me!!

WooooOOo!! This year is really an incredible fast year! Still remember that this period of last year, we were preparing for our trip to USA. Looking through the photos we took during the trip and it’s amazing at the speed of how Mikaela grown so much!

12485952_10156398687755424_701319688056118460_oCan you believe it that this was just 1 year ago at Vegas!!! She was still nearly hairless.. hahahaha!!!

And now she looks like this..

img_1714My baby girl is growing up! hehehe! So much difference! Oh yeah.. She was in this korean ย traditional due the performance due to some K2 graduation ceremony. Hahaha. Heard from the teachers that Mikaela usually dances very well during rehearsals, but I guess she was damn nervous and shock to see such a big audience looking at them performing.

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When playground kids came in wearing their Korea costume, it was so cute!!!! Hahaha. The teachers started to guide them along to dance and perform, but none of the kids performed and just stood there and start looking for the parents. I realize one bad thing during that performance was that the parents were laughing. Though they laughed as they find the kids were very cute standing there and not doing anything. But I think this reaction will only make the kids so afraid. Even for an adult, performing in front of a big crowd will be so difficult, what about the kids??? I think it will be damn traumatizing for the them!

At the last segment, they all gathered again to sing the final song. Parents were invited to come to the front to join the kids so that they won’t be so afraid. WISE MOVE!! =)

Ok… Face the new challenge next monday! All the best to myself! =)

My friend Glen

Hmmm… I’m flying off to Shanghai le! Hahaha. But just feel the need to write down something that I’m very proud to have. My friend Glen Qiu. Hahaha.

Just went to his Fitness Movement League Competition to support him at Star Vista. Even though he didn’t win, we(Sam, Eileen, Tina) really felt very proud of him for his achievement. Hahaha.

I knew Glen since we were 16 yrs old during a church cell group meeting. Didn’t know why, but we clicked quite well with each other. Always skip church together, hang out together, and strangely, we have some very common things. Like, both our sisters have the same birthdate and same year! Hahaha. Totally the same. We both retained during our secondary school days. Hahaha! We both are very big size… a lot of people say when we walk together, it’s rather scary. Hahaha. But we always have our differences, like he is a die hard Chelsea fan and I’m a die hard Manchester United fan. Always fighting with each other over our supporting clubs. Though sometimes it can get rather irritating, but I really enjoy this kind of friendship with him. 

Throughout our friendship, we were always known as the big size partners. Our friends call him Pui Kia or ah bui.. and call me pui hong. Hahaha. So that’s was it. Until recently, Glen went into an slimming product, or he can say it’s a detox program. Hahaha. Ok… this was him before. (Sorry Glen, I went to your Facebook to get your old photos. Hahahaha!!)


This was him and me. You can see his face still round round one. Hahaha. Even though the both of us go gym and train,  but we were never able to be lean. But he did it! 

He started the program in Dec 2014.


Can see the difference? I’m quite sure he’s gonna kill me for posting. Hahaha. But it’s really effective for him. Ok… people will ask me why I didn’t try the program. I did.. but I can’t “tahan” the detox days so I gave up. Hahaha. It really requires very strong determination and discipline to achieve the effect. Anyway, he kept on going. Training and doing the program and he decided to challenge himself and enter his first ever fitness competition. He say it’s not bodybuilding. So yeah.. I just call it fitness competition. Hahaha. And today is the day of his competition! This is the outcome of all his intense training and strict diet.


Wow man!! Though I still like to disturb him, but seriously, I’m really proud of his achievement! Even though he didn’t win, but we were so proud of him! Who will guess he can one day go up stage and compete with so many people and his body can be so nice?? Hahaha! 

Just wanna say I’m really proud of him, but I will still continue to poke fun at his fitness regime. ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š 

Congrats and do better next year Glen!

It’s a joy to see Mikaela growing up. Almost everyday you will see that she has something new to show you. Maybe is a word, a number or new actions.

Recently Mikaela starts to “sabo” Haha(my dog’s name). Hahaha. Whenever Haha is upset with us, he will either pee on different places, or just poo on the floor. This is his way of throwing tantrum. Hahaha. Usually he does that when we leave our house. So.. One day, after my mom and Samantha left for work, Mikaela and I stayed home as Mikaela was not well. I was still sleeping in the room. Haha started barking when they left the house, so Mikaela will shout “Haha! No! Down!”. Hahaha! But Haha usually ignores her. Maybe he don’t treat her as master yet. Hahaha. Anyway, so when I woke up, I went to the kitchen still in my sleepy state to grab drink. Mikaela start to scream “HAHA! HAHA! Ta Ta gu Ta ti(baby language)” and pointing to a specific location. I went to have a look at where she was pointing and I saw Haha’s urine on the floor under one of our table in the corner of our living room. That corner is actually quite hard to discover as there is quite a lot of Mikaela’s toys there, so we don’t usually pay attention to that location. When Mikaela started screaming to alert me of Haha’s bad deed, Haha looked at Mikaela and just walked back to his cage with a guilty face. I was thinking to myself that Haha must be thinking “WTS! Why you sago me???!” Hahaha. Ok.. I think too much.. Hahaha. Anyway, Haha loves Mikaela.. Even after that incident, he will still her bully him. Hahaha. I’m sure as Mikaela grows up, she will surely be very close with Haha. =)

 

Recently, lots of people were sharing on articles or videos on certain group of people were trying to “kidnap” their kids at shopping malls. There was a video that caught my attention. It was about how the group will act as if they are the family members of the mother of the kid and started to say the mother was torturing the kid and started to grab the kid away even though the mother was saying she doesn’t know them. As it looks like a family dispute, so the crowd didn’t do anything to help the mother. Luckily there was a lady who seems to know the scam stopped them from leaving. This is such a scary case. I really hope that it will not happen in Singapore.

After watching the videos, I remember Samantha and I had an experience before. Not the same as the video. Not so drama. But it was scary when we think about it. It was before Mikaela turn 1 year old. And during that time, there were reports of cases that people grab the kid away while the parents were not looking. I’m not sure if ours was like that, but just want to share.

We went to Vivocity for shopping during 1 of the weekend. As Mikaela couldn’t walk that time, we brought the baby pram with us. We were at FOX the clothing shop, Samantha was looking at clothes for Mikaela in the shop while I was waiting outside the shop with Mikaela. Then came an old uncle. He came really near us and started to play with Mikaela, making funny faces, but not touching her, so I was ok with it. Then he started to ask me how old is she, when was she born all these. I just answer him, but never say the date of the birthday. Then he started moving really close to us, and I felt quite uncomfortable, but I just hold on to the pram tightly and started to shield Mikaela from him. Samantha saw the incident and started to call me to come into the shop to see the clothes with her. When I went in, she asked me who’s the uncle and she said that she was feeling very uncomfortable with him. As I didn’t think much of it, I told her he might be waiting for someone in the shop. But….. in the shop, there was only my family and other family. When I looked for him, he was still outside the shop looking at us, standing there. So we started to feel really uneasy.. We stayed in the shop for a while more to get our stuffs. When we left the shop, he was no longer there.

It might be we think too much la… But as a parent, you should never take the risk. Can you imagine if you just relax for a moment, and your child is taken, you will surely regret for the rest of your life. I’m not saying whoever comes to you and wanna play with your kid, they have bad motives. You just need to be more careful. After that incident and reading all the articles, we will always be very close with Mikaela even when she knows how to walk and run now. So…. Be safe!!!

Last Friday, Sam received a call from the childcare centre informing her that Mikaela is having fever. As Sam is working, I went to fetch Mikaela home to rest. Night time, we received an sms from the childcare centre that there is 2 confirmed HFMD(Hand, foot, mouth disease). *sian*. Brought her to a GP clinic to get some medication for her.

During the weekend, her fever subsides, but she start having rashes on her arms and legs. We decided to bring her to Dr Tan(pediatrician)at Thomson Medical on Monday(today). Called in, but Dr Tan was at overseas and only be back this Saturday. So we just brought her to other Children clinic.

I googled and found this Children’s clinic at Tampines area. Brought Mikaela to the clinic. Now…. The bad experience starts….. While doing the registration for Mikaela, the CA(clinic assistant) ask the reason for coming to see the doctor so we told her the symptoms. She straight away say, “oh! Please do not let your daughter touch anything in the clinic, and please wait outside the clinic!” I’m fine with this as I’m from the healthcare industry, I know HFMD is contagious. But what I was upset about was the tone of her voice. She was rude! Ok… That’s only the first part. We went into the consult room, doctor was another weird one. Can’t really recall what she said, but it wasn’t pleasant as well. Anyway, she confirmed that Mikaela is having HFMD, gave her 1 week MC.

When we came out of the consult room, we went to sit at the waiting area to wait for the medications. Guess what… The CA shouted again over the counter to us! She said “ๅ‡บๅŽป๏ผไฝ ไปฌๅ‡บๅŽป๏ผ” I was like WTF???! There were quite a number of people in the clinic, so as I mentioned earlier, I understand her point, but can’t she say it in a nicer tone?????? Our girl is sick leh… Sam replied her, “outside? Why can’t we stay??” Then the CA, just impatiently came out of her counter and made a very loud “tsk”! She opened the door for us and once again say, “ๅ‡บๅŽป๏ผ”. I asked Sam to wait for me in the car while I stay in the clinic to wait for Mikaela’s medication. Really pissed with this kind of shitty service. Come on.. Our kid is sick, parents are worried, can’t you just say nicely??????? Was there a need to shout????????? If you don’t have love for the patients, you should just do other jobs. I always feel healthcare is a very special industry. Patients are sick, having a rude and impatient healthcare worker attending to them only makes them feel even more shitty.

End of my verbal diarrhea. Good bye!